Let's talk without fear!
Let's talk without fear!
During the last weeks I had the impression that many conversations were obscured with a nervous atmosphere and often stranded in neverending loops. I am not sure if this was caused only by my own nervousness or if it was a matter of interaction.
When I look at myself I can witness fear as an additional, uninvited guest. Most times this fear is not corresponding to my actual dialogue partner or to our subject of conversation. It is a general fear due tot he Corona-Virus.
I fear for my physical, mental and economical existence. This fear is even intensified through the sense of helplessnes:
I can see so many complexe connections between the amount of negative consequences of the Corona-Pandemic and I feel totally unable to oppose something to make it any better.
This feels threatenin, and to thread our brain knows three answers:
- attack
- flight
- freeze
All three of them are not suitable to support smooth conversation. Nevertheless I also realized that to bear in mind this correlation can already relax the situation and break the unfavourable circuit. Other than with the corona-virus this won’t take weeks. We only need a moment and perhaps a deep breath. This moment will help to prevent the spread of misunderstandings, which raise new threatening fears, which lead to... Well, perhaps you already know those discussions.
In the current situation it is most likely that my fears and those of my dialogue partners are very similar. In this way they could be like a bond between us, something we have in common.
Well, don’t let our fears talk instead of ourselves. Let’s better hold on for a moment and then rise to speak in person. And maybe it is not till then that we realize more than we think.
Geschrieben am: 03.11.2020
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